You’re [Not] a Three

Trent: Duncan, on a scale of one to ten what do you think you are?
Duncan: I don’t know, a six.
Trent: I think you’re a three.
~ The Way Way Back

Last night, my family went to see The Way, Way Back upon the recommendation of my brother. He said it was the best movie he’s seen this year. We kinda laughed because back in the day he told us we had to go see I Am Legend  because it was “the best movie ever.” Now, it was a good movie but best movie ever . . . ? I guess it was to a seventeen-year-old male. But his taste in movies is usually close to my own and I’d seen the trailer so I figured it’d be a good flick. I was wrong. It was way, way good. It had an authenticity to it, yet remained funny and hopeful. That’s a rare combo these days. I’d highly recommend it.

In the opening scene Trent, Duncan’s mom’s boyfriend, asks Duncan what he thinks he is on a scale of one to ten. That’s a weird thing to ask. It’s an even weirder thing to ask a fourteen-year-old boy. When the poor guy is finally forced to give an answer, he settles on a six. Six is a safe answer. It’s not trashing yourself. It’s not cocky. And Trent just nails him with his reply, “I think you’re a three.”  To quote Duncan later on, “Who says that to somebody?

Seriously, who would say that to somebody? It’s awful. It’s mean. It’s demeaning. It’s outrageous.

But how often do we think something similar when we look in a mirror?
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Fall 2013 TV Lineup

Fall 2013 Shows

Time Slot

Network

Premieres

Betrayal

Sunday 9:00

ABC

September 29

We Are Men

Monday 7:30

CBS

September 30

Sleepy Hollow

Monday 8:00

FOX

September 16

Mom

Monday 8:30

CBS

September 23

Hostages

Monday 9:00

CBS

September 23

Blacklist

Monday 9:00

NBC

September 23

Marvel’s Agents of S.H.I.E.L.D.

Tuesday 7:00

ABC

September 24

The Originals

Tuesday 7:00

CW

October 3

Dads

Tuesday 7:00

FOX

September 17

Brooklyn Nine-Nine

Tuesday 7:30

FOX

September 17

The Goldbergs

Tuesday 8:00

ABC

September 24

Trophy Wife

Tuesday 8:30

ABC

September 24

Lucky 7

Tuesday 9:00

ABC

September 24

Back in the Game

Wednesday 7:30

ABC

September 25

The Tomorrow People

Wednesday 8:00

CW

October 9

Super Fun Night

Wednesday 8:30

ABC

October 2

Ironside

Wednesday 9:00

NBC

October 2

Once Upon a Time in Wonderland

Thursday 7:00

ABC

October 10

The Millers

Thursday 7:30

CBS

September 26

Welcome to the Family

Thursday 7:30

NBC

October 3

The Crazy Ones

Thursday 8:00

CBS

September 26

Reign

Thursday 8:00

CW

October 17

Sean Saves the World

Thursday 8:00

NBC

October 3

The Michael J. Fox Show

Thursday 8:30

NBC

September 26

Dracula

Friday 9:00

NBC

October 25

Two summers ago I found myself lamenting that there was nothing on TV. You know when you get to that place where there’s not a game you want to watch, everything’s in reruns or a “reality” show/competition? So, I looked up all the new shows that would be on that fall.

My dad and I have always liked guessing whether or not we think a show will make it. I decided we should make it official and take bets. I gathered all the trailers for the Fall 2011 shows. We watched each preview and then tried to decide whether or not the show would get picked up for a second season. We weren’t allowed to research what critics were saying, this round was all about gut reaction. Then, we’d watch the pilot and get a second chance to decide if it’d be renewed- again, no researching. It’s like March Madness for TV (only I’m much better at picking shows than I am a basketball teams).

Surprisingly we were fairly accurate. Naturally we don’t include reality shows, that’s too complicated. And there are always curve balls. Who’d have thought a show like Two Broke Girls or The Neighbors would get picked up for a second season? Certainly not us.

The CW is also incredibly hard to gauge. I’m still not over the fact that they cancelled Emily Owens, M.D. I think the writers hacked into my brain at times because her thoughts were so very much my own. Like this one:

“The thing about being an adult that no one tells you growing up is that you don’t feel like an adult. All your stupid insecurities and anxieties are still there, only you feel more stupid and insecure about being stupid and insecure because you’re not supposed be stupid and insecure anymore. You’re supposed to have the answers. You’re supposed to know. But we don’t always know. And those answers? They’re not always easy to come by. Well you know what? I’m done feeling stupid and insecure about feeling stupid and insecure. The truth is, I think part of being an adult is that you stop waiting for yourself to change and you start to accept who you are.”

No matter the outcome, be it it gratitude for a renewal or outrage at a cancellation, we’ve always had fun. So, this year, I’m sharing the fun. I’ve organized everything you need to start a competition with your family, friends, or coworkers. If you’re friends with me, feel free to send me your picks. I’ve already made mine!

Here is a PDF of the document* I use to determine what’s on when and keep track of who bets what: Fall 2013 TV

This is a youtube playlist including all trailers for the new shows coming to a television set near you:

And finally, if you, like my dad need to see what a particular show is up against to determine your pick here is a great link from TV Guide: http://www.tvguide.com/special/fall-preview/fall-schedule.aspx?wcid=14

To the winner goes the bragging rights!

*Note this does not include reality or cable shows and is also for the start of the fall season -not the mid-season mix up.

Just a Date

I was sitting across from this incredible twenty-year-old girl at coffee last week and felt that bafflement once again when she told me she’s never dated. Not because she doesn’t want to date. It just hasn’t happened. And let me assure you this girl is not homely. She’s not one of those girls you have to get to know to see her beauty. She’s just beautiful. Big blue eyes, cute figure, great smile and the fact that she’s actually got a great personality, loves God and her family, and is funny should be icing on the cake. She’s totally dateable and yet I’d venture a guess hardly anyone’s asked her out- ever. Because, unfortunately, she’s grown up in this weird Bible-belt culture we’ve created where asking someone on a date is a foreign concept.

I feel it is necessary to add a disclaimer upfront:

1. This is something I’ve been thinking about for years, like 10+ years, basically since I was of dating age.

2. I am not fishing for dates.

3. I know I’m not the only one out here thinking this, so I thought I’d join the current social commentary.

4. This is just me rambling. I’m just putting this out there, not trying to bash a particular school of thought.

5. Mainly, I’m writing this because this is something I wish I’d known at sixteen. What I wish had been okay when I was sixteen.

I’ve always loved anything set in the 1940s. I love the clothes, the history, the WWII era attitude. I adore the dances. Big band + boys that know how to dance = swoon. I think, though, one of the things that struck me as wondrous was the dating culture. The concept of casually asking a girl to a dance or the picture show without all the drama. How incredibly appealing. Back when a date was just that, just a date. I’m not saying there wasn’t drama or heartbreak involved- but I think for the most part people accepted that just because you asked a girl out to the diner didn’t mean you were asking for her hand.

And this was also fairly true in the 60s- 80s. So, what happened? Please, someone give me a clue? How did we go from the accepted casual date to what it was for me in the early 2000s- if you went out on a date it was something way more than casual. You had to have prayed (and possibly fasted) to be sure of what you were doing because essentially a date equaled a relationship. I know that wasn’t always the case, but that’s how it felt.

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A Schooling in Kindness

I said yes. I simply said I’d love to come. Then, I made plans. I went shopping. I made cookies and Chex mix. I packed. I didn’t think about what that yes entailed. Well, at least not until it was too late to back out.

And for the past few years I’ve been the queen at backing out. I can come up with an excuse lickety-split. You know those books people read about how to set boundaries and how to say no to people? Never needed one. I’d gotten so good at building fences they’d become fortresses. Which isn’t a good thing, it’s just a fact. And even though she’s my oldest friend and I love her dearly, it’s her invitation I have declined again and again. Not when it’s just her mind you. We go to dinner, we’ve talked over cups of coffee, we’ve historically split large Sonic Reese’s blasts with extra Reese’s on too many occasions. But when it came to parties and group events I quickly came up with an excuse. Or I said maybe which nine times out of ten became a no. I’m sure it was hurtful to her at times but that didn’t really occur to me until recently. I’d just been thinking of how I felt at those parties. Small. Continue reading